Divorce has taken a long time all over the world, there are people who divorce more than once, especially in countries that have a tradition of staying engaged for a certain period of time, and find that the couple will not see their appointed time. In Rwanda, divorce is increasing.
There is a study that shows that most of the divorced people are less happy than they were when they were with the divorced person, the person always regrets the divorce and wanted it very much. That’s why the author, who is an expert in marital relations, has written a list of important things to consider before getting a divorce.
These include:
1. Emotions
A person who is thinking about divorce is sad, angry, angry and depressed, that’s true and what he thinks is a solution, but is that solution the right time? Mostly that thought is driven by emotions, which is why most people after a while start regretting what they have done, even if they take time to meet secretly.
2. Think about your children.
Those who think of divorce are quick to think about their children, no one can imagine how divorce has a great impact on the children of different people including;
• Failing to study because of having too much homework
The constant fear of what they went through when the parents were going through a bad divorce
• Playing games that are embarrassing…, fighting
3. Anger makes the heart stronger
In any case, the decision mainly comes from anger, the saddest thing is that even if you start explaining your anger to your spouse, it will eat you more and more and you will feel that your heart is going to break. behind. So it’s not good to get used to anger at every decision you make.
4. Don’t tell your children the bad things about your partner, Father/Mother
Children at home love both parents, it is possible that you tell the children the bad things about your partner, the Father or the Mother of the children, when you start the divorce, that is the time to limit what you told the children because later when they start facing the consequences, you are the first one they will think of as the culprit of your divorce because they did not listen to him well, and the problems they will have will always be put on you. When they grow up they will know the truth.
5. There is no urgency/hurry
It is good to take enough time to think between making a decision and implementing it, this time is very important. Also, don’t think that after we break up, I’ll fall in love with someone else and we’ll live together, that’s not the way to relax the problems you had, you were led by your emotions and ignored the time to be alone with yourself. There is no guarantee that you will find the right match.
6. Sex
Regarding sex in your first concern, you must remember that if it is not good to immediately build another home, sex is also necessary in your life, what will you do? Often those who are separated go to adultery, the testimony of many of those who have divorced, what they have in common is the negative consequences, including illness and a bad appearance in the society they live in, in Rwanda or in other countries.
The best conclusion about this divorce issue is that if you want to do it, you should think about it first before committing to someone else’s actions that will increase the distance between you and your partner (spouse), distracting him, behaving like a loser, saying hurtful words to him, showing him that you don’t need him, regretting that you were together. Another thing is to take time to pray about the situation you are in.
